"God designed the family to be the stabilizing structure in our culture in which to build those vital relationships and also to teach the art of true intimacy. In the context of family, children learn how to be themselves, how to live peacefully with others, how to give and receive affection, how to care for each other. They develop both the personal security and the relational skills that are necessary to attach themselves to another person, as well as the wisdom to choose healthy attachments over unhealthy ones. When children have a safe haven -- a place to be protected from the storms of life; a place to be emotionally, mentally, and spiritually encouraged; a place where they enjoy the time and attention from the important people in their lives -- and time in which to mature, then they will have a good opportunity to become emotionally healthy and flourishing human beings."
-p. 122, The Mission of Motherhood
Friday, 9 July 2010
Monday, 4 May 2009
From the Blog Curious in Ibiza
"There is a great line from gabriel and the vagabond a song by Foy vance. The story goes that the angel Gabriel stops and meets a vagabond he shows the man love and salvation and gives him hope
The next verse goes like this:
"When the vagabond turned around well without a sign
Gabriel just smiled and disappeared
Then he looked to the crowd and they were laughing out loud
But he could not see them fore tears
When his vision came round
There was a young girl on the ground
I knew she was finding it hard to cope
She never was a fighter until he laid beside her
And gently whispered hope"
I love that line at the end "gently whispered hope"I guess for me it's not about preaching, or trying to win someone over to my ideology it's about gently whispering hope. We just want to be a gentle whisper here, a whisper of goodness and compassion. A whisper that says don't worry we'll get you home, don't worry we'll feed you, don't worry we'll listen, a whisper of kindness here in the westend.It's not hard, it's my call.
The next verse goes like this:
"When the vagabond turned around well without a sign
Gabriel just smiled and disappeared
Then he looked to the crowd and they were laughing out loud
But he could not see them fore tears
When his vision came round
There was a young girl on the ground
I knew she was finding it hard to cope
She never was a fighter until he laid beside her
And gently whispered hope"
I love that line at the end "gently whispered hope"I guess for me it's not about preaching, or trying to win someone over to my ideology it's about gently whispering hope. We just want to be a gentle whisper here, a whisper of goodness and compassion. A whisper that says don't worry we'll get you home, don't worry we'll feed you, don't worry we'll listen, a whisper of kindness here in the westend.It's not hard, it's my call.
problems with school
It seems that Im not the only person who thinks the world is on its head.
“The plain fact is that the planet does not need more “successful” people. But it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every shape and form. It needs people who live well in their places. It needs people of moral courage willing to join the fight to make the world habitable and humane. And these needs have little to do with success as our culture has defined it.”
From his speech What is Education For? by David Orr
From “The Dangers of Privilege and College Admission”, an editorial by college consultant William Caskey in the Chicago Tribune:
As they near college, we drive exhausted teens toward milestones of success ruled by grades, standardized test scores, and the ultimate mark of achievement these days: a brand-name school. Spent and busy parents expect me, their college consultant, to nag, drag, and, if necessary, carry their reluctant, exhausted, and often passionless kids toward the finish line and a “top-tier” college. When I ask what would happen if their kids were left alone to complete this process without parental fuel driving them, they are often confused by my question.
…
I see many teens of means with few interests and little idea how to pursue those mild passions they do have. Ironically, many are successful academically. Rarely, however, is their success driven by a quest for knowledge. Rather, they tie academic achievement to eventual financial success.
Is there, as Ghandi said, more to life than increasing its speed?
What did my education do for me?
Yes it made me do things I didnt want to do which is actually a useful thing to learn.
Yes it allowed me to get good marks on tests
It taught me to integrate socially, it gave me some good experiences, it gave me the ability to work to a routine.
Yes there were some good teachers who taught me more than this but still within that framework.
But it didnt stretch me as far as I could have, it made me tick boxes and go at everyone elses pace, even a better school would have done the same but maybe at a higher level with more stress. It didnt prepare me for life. It didnt teach me about my emotions and what to do with them. It didnt teach me about settling my soul and finding the things which make me happy to just be. It didnt teach me to follow my thirst for knowledge in the direction I want to.
It didnt teach me how to live the life I want to live as an adult.
Where AM i supposed to learn that?
“The plain fact is that the planet does not need more “successful” people. But it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every shape and form. It needs people who live well in their places. It needs people of moral courage willing to join the fight to make the world habitable and humane. And these needs have little to do with success as our culture has defined it.”
From his speech What is Education For? by David Orr
From “The Dangers of Privilege and College Admission”, an editorial by college consultant William Caskey in the Chicago Tribune:
As they near college, we drive exhausted teens toward milestones of success ruled by grades, standardized test scores, and the ultimate mark of achievement these days: a brand-name school. Spent and busy parents expect me, their college consultant, to nag, drag, and, if necessary, carry their reluctant, exhausted, and often passionless kids toward the finish line and a “top-tier” college. When I ask what would happen if their kids were left alone to complete this process without parental fuel driving them, they are often confused by my question.
…
I see many teens of means with few interests and little idea how to pursue those mild passions they do have. Ironically, many are successful academically. Rarely, however, is their success driven by a quest for knowledge. Rather, they tie academic achievement to eventual financial success.
Is there, as Ghandi said, more to life than increasing its speed?
What did my education do for me?
Yes it made me do things I didnt want to do which is actually a useful thing to learn.
Yes it allowed me to get good marks on tests
It taught me to integrate socially, it gave me some good experiences, it gave me the ability to work to a routine.
Yes there were some good teachers who taught me more than this but still within that framework.
But it didnt stretch me as far as I could have, it made me tick boxes and go at everyone elses pace, even a better school would have done the same but maybe at a higher level with more stress. It didnt prepare me for life. It didnt teach me about my emotions and what to do with them. It didnt teach me about settling my soul and finding the things which make me happy to just be. It didnt teach me to follow my thirst for knowledge in the direction I want to.
It didnt teach me how to live the life I want to live as an adult.
Where AM i supposed to learn that?
Good Christian blogs
Anyone know of any good Christian blogs?
I want something to read which gets me more excited about God, which will help me get closer to him, and something that won't make me feel bad for how my relationship with him has been for the past five years. I've been through tough times and I want gentle nurturing inspiration.
I want something to read which gets me more excited about God, which will help me get closer to him, and something that won't make me feel bad for how my relationship with him has been for the past five years. I've been through tough times and I want gentle nurturing inspiration.
Friday, 1 May 2009
Priorities
Song for a Fifth Child
by Ruth Hurlburt Hamilton (1958)
Mother, O Mother, come shake out your cloth,
Empty the dustpan, poison the moth,
Hang out the washing, make up the bed,
Sew on a button and butter the bread.
Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?
She’s up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.
Oh, I’ve grown as shiftless as Little Boy Blue,
Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo.
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo
The shopping’s not done and there’s nothing for stew
And out in the yard there’s a hullabaloo
But I’m playing Kanga and this is my Roo
Look! Aren’t his eyes the most wonderful hue?
Lullabye, rockaby lullabye loo.
The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.
by Ruth Hurlburt Hamilton (1958)
Mother, O Mother, come shake out your cloth,
Empty the dustpan, poison the moth,
Hang out the washing, make up the bed,
Sew on a button and butter the bread.
Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?
She’s up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.
Oh, I’ve grown as shiftless as Little Boy Blue,
Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo.
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo
The shopping’s not done and there’s nothing for stew
And out in the yard there’s a hullabaloo
But I’m playing Kanga and this is my Roo
Look! Aren’t his eyes the most wonderful hue?
Lullabye, rockaby lullabye loo.
The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.
life
I marvel at my insensate folly,
that with such enriching favours within my reach
I am slow to extend the hand to take them…
Quicken me, stir me, fill me with holy zeal.
Strengthen me that I may cling to thee and not let thee go.
May thy Spirit within me draw all blessings from they hand.
When I advance not, I backslide.
From The Valley of Vision
Am I embracing what God offers me at this very moment?
New life? New Identity? New beginning? New day?
How do I respond to God’s personal visit to me?
Do I come to Him expecting wrath or open arms?
Questions taken from My Children: A Lenten Devotional
that with such enriching favours within my reach
I am slow to extend the hand to take them…
Quicken me, stir me, fill me with holy zeal.
Strengthen me that I may cling to thee and not let thee go.
May thy Spirit within me draw all blessings from they hand.
When I advance not, I backslide.
From The Valley of Vision
Am I embracing what God offers me at this very moment?
New life? New Identity? New beginning? New day?
How do I respond to God’s personal visit to me?
Do I come to Him expecting wrath or open arms?
Questions taken from My Children: A Lenten Devotional
Wednesday, 15 April 2009
Hmm
So here I am continuing to bumble through life - Im not sure if this is the best way to go or if a more concrete plan would be better?
I'm still making some jewelery but have also got a part time job at our local co-op. And Im going to do some volunteering at a local school to help me decide about maybe teaching? I have NO idea what I want to do really. Does that mean i will be happy doing anything? Or never happy?
David has his job until next september and then may candidate although not straight away if i am doing training too. If he doesnt candidate we dont know what he will do.
We may buy a house is the court case goes ahead in the summer. Or we may rent.
Should I be more ambitious? Be making more plans for the future? Thinking about being more financially stable and waiting for the perfect time to have kids? Or is a little bit of future planning, and a lot of living in the present and enjoying it ok?
I'm still making some jewelery but have also got a part time job at our local co-op. And Im going to do some volunteering at a local school to help me decide about maybe teaching? I have NO idea what I want to do really. Does that mean i will be happy doing anything? Or never happy?
David has his job until next september and then may candidate although not straight away if i am doing training too. If he doesnt candidate we dont know what he will do.
We may buy a house is the court case goes ahead in the summer. Or we may rent.
Should I be more ambitious? Be making more plans for the future? Thinking about being more financially stable and waiting for the perfect time to have kids? Or is a little bit of future planning, and a lot of living in the present and enjoying it ok?
Wednesday, 4 February 2009
Have we lost the values of Methodism?
Maybe I'll just ramble my thoughts here instead of thinking I have to write about the humdrum of my daily life. And I keep track of all the wonderful blogs I like to read.
Last night as I was trying to sleep this is what I was thinking about.
Have we lost the values of the Methodist church?
Further conversation with my husband revealed that the original idea of the Methodist church was for God to be reachable by everyone. The poorer people couldnt read the bible readings, couldnt read to find out about God and so couldnt really connect with Him on the same level as those who could read. So the Methodist church tried to teach them to read and starting singing hymns so that they could learn the theology without needing to read as they could remember the hymns. It was about EVERYONE being able to understand and communicate with God.
Yet now we are in the same situation but with generation problems instead. The (mainly) older church members find they can learn about and communicate with God in their traditions of sermons, prayer and hymns in a structured format. The (mainly) younger members find that they do not understand the language of the hymns and prefer to discuss rather than to just listen to long sermons. The traditional format isnt a good platform for them to learn about and comunicate with God from. And so we have kept the traditions but lost the values!
I know this is generalising a lot, and I dont mean to say I see no value in the current traditions because thats not true but I can't work out what the future for the church is going to be. What are our options - to carry on as we are and not entirely satisfy either group as we try and find a middle ground? Or to split into an old church which will gradually get smaller and a younger church that will get larger? But then we will lose the guidance and wisdom and knowledge of the older members.
I dont want to lose that, but I dont want the compromise to be that I am made to try and relate to, learn about and worship God in a way which is difficult for me and which limits and restricts my worship. I think a lot of people think youth just want loud music but its not for loud musics sake, its the need for a style which we are comfortable in, which allows us to worship without having to translate ourselves into something we are not. Imagine having to speak to God in the Spanish you did at school?!!!
So is there a way to combine the wisdom and knowledge of the older members with the frustrated hunger and thirsting of the younger members? To have a church where peoples praise is not limited by the format they are forced to worship in? But where there is a community of everyone and an understanding that there are things in other peoples styles which CAN be beneficial for us to learn?
Last night as I was trying to sleep this is what I was thinking about.
Have we lost the values of the Methodist church?
Further conversation with my husband revealed that the original idea of the Methodist church was for God to be reachable by everyone. The poorer people couldnt read the bible readings, couldnt read to find out about God and so couldnt really connect with Him on the same level as those who could read. So the Methodist church tried to teach them to read and starting singing hymns so that they could learn the theology without needing to read as they could remember the hymns. It was about EVERYONE being able to understand and communicate with God.
Yet now we are in the same situation but with generation problems instead. The (mainly) older church members find they can learn about and communicate with God in their traditions of sermons, prayer and hymns in a structured format. The (mainly) younger members find that they do not understand the language of the hymns and prefer to discuss rather than to just listen to long sermons. The traditional format isnt a good platform for them to learn about and comunicate with God from. And so we have kept the traditions but lost the values!
I know this is generalising a lot, and I dont mean to say I see no value in the current traditions because thats not true but I can't work out what the future for the church is going to be. What are our options - to carry on as we are and not entirely satisfy either group as we try and find a middle ground? Or to split into an old church which will gradually get smaller and a younger church that will get larger? But then we will lose the guidance and wisdom and knowledge of the older members.
I dont want to lose that, but I dont want the compromise to be that I am made to try and relate to, learn about and worship God in a way which is difficult for me and which limits and restricts my worship. I think a lot of people think youth just want loud music but its not for loud musics sake, its the need for a style which we are comfortable in, which allows us to worship without having to translate ourselves into something we are not. Imagine having to speak to God in the Spanish you did at school?!!!
So is there a way to combine the wisdom and knowledge of the older members with the frustrated hunger and thirsting of the younger members? To have a church where peoples praise is not limited by the format they are forced to worship in? But where there is a community of everyone and an understanding that there are things in other peoples styles which CAN be beneficial for us to learn?
Monday, 19 January 2009
Maybe
Maybe I'll never be a good blogger - but I love having this blog anyway to keep track of al the fabulous blogs out there!!
Wednesday, 17 December 2008
Egypt and blergh
I have just been on a fabulous holiday to Egypt for five days, but now we've come back to horrible English weather and an absolutely evil cold/cough bug so Im too ill to write any more
Sunday, 30 November 2008
What if Starbucks marketed like the church?
I also found a really interesting and thought provoking video
http://www.beyondrelevance.com/index.cfm/pageid/913/postid/24/index.html#e5059
http://www.beyondrelevance.com/index.cfm/pageid/913/postid/24/index.html#e5059
Without ceasing
Every time I resolve to write more on here, I never do.
So now my resolve is to write if I want to, about anything I want to.
I've been doing a lot of thinking recently about trying to regain my relationship with God, and about the local churches here. I have these ideas and thoughts all the time and I never say them to anyone, maybe I should?
I want church to be exciting, challenging, touching, friendly and many other things yet most of the time I find it is stand up sit down, sing hymns boring. I dont want to leave the methodist church - I am sure I am here for a reason but what is it? In a church that relies on SO many meetings how can someone who doesnt even go most of the time change anything? How can I make them see that this generation and younger want to connect with God desperately but need to do so in the ways which come naturaly to them, so that worship is an extension of themselves and their personalities, not a formal traditional pattern which they just take part in on a sunday. I think the history of the church is great but do you really think that the heights of my amazement at the creator of the universe dying for me can be expressed by singing hymns I dont even understand?! I need to keep this yearning alive, but I Also want to be doing something about it.
Today I've been reading about 24/7 prayer and I found a beautiful poem about it by someone called Lisa Borden
WITHOUT CEASING
And this is how we pray
Backs nestled into the hammock
Faces turned toward the stars
The warm air lifts against us
And we are quiet, quiet
As you, God, speak to us
About how big you are
And this is how we pray
Sitting on the leaf strewn ground
Peering across the pattern of sun and shade
The clear pool under the giant fig
Where the monitor lizard slips through the water
And we whisper our worshipful thanks
Again and again
And this is how we pray
Standing in the kitchen
Speaking out the worries in our minds
Telling this perfect parent God
Just how small our faith feels
Conscious of how sweetly ludicrous
Our doubts must appear
And this is how we pray
Curled into our duvets
Safely tucked in on this wind blown night
Thoughts far from here
With our friends who sit in vigil
Waiting for a precious life to pass
Maybe even tonight
And this is how we pray
With longing
And with hope
With stress
And with joy
With daring
And with simple words
So now my resolve is to write if I want to, about anything I want to.
I've been doing a lot of thinking recently about trying to regain my relationship with God, and about the local churches here. I have these ideas and thoughts all the time and I never say them to anyone, maybe I should?
I want church to be exciting, challenging, touching, friendly and many other things yet most of the time I find it is stand up sit down, sing hymns boring. I dont want to leave the methodist church - I am sure I am here for a reason but what is it? In a church that relies on SO many meetings how can someone who doesnt even go most of the time change anything? How can I make them see that this generation and younger want to connect with God desperately but need to do so in the ways which come naturaly to them, so that worship is an extension of themselves and their personalities, not a formal traditional pattern which they just take part in on a sunday. I think the history of the church is great but do you really think that the heights of my amazement at the creator of the universe dying for me can be expressed by singing hymns I dont even understand?! I need to keep this yearning alive, but I Also want to be doing something about it.
Today I've been reading about 24/7 prayer and I found a beautiful poem about it by someone called Lisa Borden
WITHOUT CEASING
And this is how we pray
Backs nestled into the hammock
Faces turned toward the stars
The warm air lifts against us
And we are quiet, quiet
As you, God, speak to us
About how big you are
And this is how we pray
Sitting on the leaf strewn ground
Peering across the pattern of sun and shade
The clear pool under the giant fig
Where the monitor lizard slips through the water
And we whisper our worshipful thanks
Again and again
And this is how we pray
Standing in the kitchen
Speaking out the worries in our minds
Telling this perfect parent God
Just how small our faith feels
Conscious of how sweetly ludicrous
Our doubts must appear
And this is how we pray
Curled into our duvets
Safely tucked in on this wind blown night
Thoughts far from here
With our friends who sit in vigil
Waiting for a precious life to pass
Maybe even tonight
And this is how we pray
With longing
And with hope
With stress
And with joy
With daring
And with simple words
Saturday, 1 November 2008
Sketches
Hi
Heres some of my latest journalling, just some quick doodly pages. One based on cacti and their flowers, and the other on a pattern from some material. I like how the pages are so quick to create and are bold and colourful.
Heres some of my latest journalling, just some quick doodly pages. One based on cacti and their flowers, and the other on a pattern from some material. I like how the pages are so quick to create and are bold and colourful.
Sunday, 12 October 2008
Mexican gherkins
Anyone know how to pickle my mexican gherkins?
I have some kind of spiced vinegar we used for making chutneys last year but I dont know what to do with it to pickle these things?
I have some kind of spiced vinegar we used for making chutneys last year but I dont know what to do with it to pickle these things?
Wednesday, 8 October 2008
Christmas cards.
This is what I have been working on this last week.
A child-like cut-out Christmas tree with shiny baubles done with a hole punch.
Recycled paper baubles which can be removed and used as decorations. It says Best Wishes in gold glittery embossing powder at the bottom.
A child-like cut-out Christmas tree with shiny baubles done with a hole punch.
Recycled paper baubles which can be removed and used as decorations. It says Best Wishes in gold glittery embossing powder at the bottom.
Recycled paper VERY shiny stars
These are my favourite but are larger than the others - these are A5 rather than A6.
Thursday, 2 October 2008
Christmas cards
Pictures coming soon - today I have started making Christmas cards to sell on my website!!
Thursday, 25 September 2008
Blogging
What I really love about the blogs I read is how chatty and friendly they are. I love learning about other peoples lives and seeing all the things they have cooked or made. So why when it comes to me do I seem to keep forgetting to blog because nothing has happened!!!
When in reality I have
- made some lanyards
- possibly got someone to share my workshop with (must ring her again)
- started doing kids club again with my husband
- got a real block on doing silversmithing at the moment for some reason (must do some next week)
- my tomatoes are being got by the cold as they ripen so the nice green ones are in the freezer now to make chutney later, as are the tomatillos
- my sweetcorn are still not readybut are hopefully protected from the cold.
- my mexican gherkins are ready to pickle but I have no jars
- one of my peppers has turned a beautiful bright orange in a matter of days!
- I made some lemon nutmeg scones off someones blog - temporarily forgotton whose
- I also made some honey scotch pancakes with my special honey to help my poor husband with his infected impacted wisdom tooth.
- we made beautiful chicken valentines with pea and potato mash for tea yesterday
And I think nothing has happened!!!!!
When in reality I have
- made some lanyards
- possibly got someone to share my workshop with (must ring her again)
- started doing kids club again with my husband
- got a real block on doing silversmithing at the moment for some reason (must do some next week)
- my tomatoes are being got by the cold as they ripen so the nice green ones are in the freezer now to make chutney later, as are the tomatillos
- my sweetcorn are still not readybut are hopefully protected from the cold.
- my mexican gherkins are ready to pickle but I have no jars
- one of my peppers has turned a beautiful bright orange in a matter of days!
- I made some lemon nutmeg scones off someones blog - temporarily forgotton whose
- I also made some honey scotch pancakes with my special honey to help my poor husband with his infected impacted wisdom tooth.
- we made beautiful chicken valentines with pea and potato mash for tea yesterday
And I think nothing has happened!!!!!
Sunday, 14 September 2008
Too long since I've been here
You ever have a time when life seems so busy but at the same time so empty of anything you want to blog about? - no cooking,no crafting, very little jewellery making - just my everyday life! Maybe I should blog more about that - make it more personal and not just crafty stuff?
What do you think?
What do you think?
Friday, 15 August 2008
Art journal and lanyards
Heres my latest art journal page which I finally managed to get done about 6pm yesterday so just in time for the Friday deadline on Craftster - yesterday being being Friday.
The theme was Connections - I used a lot of recycled stuff, envelope, magazines, brown paper envelope, postcards for pictures and cut up to make the mini-cards inside the envelope.
The theme was Connections - I used a lot of recycled stuff, envelope, magazines, brown paper envelope, postcards for pictures and cut up to make the mini-cards inside the envelope.
This is the mini postcards inside the envelope. The white one is from a recycled card and the others are from magazines. The small writing says "What could better explain the relationship betwen nature, human life and the planet, then pressing a seed into the ground and a shoot emerging - crying out to be looked after - and then giving up a tasty, fresh vegetable."
And heres my latest kindof jewellery. I've been working on some lanyards to hold ID badges and this is the prettiest one I think.
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